In our normal everyday (not pregnancy) lives is it ok to go up to someone and say "wow you're HUGE??" The answer is ummmm NO! So why is it that people feel compelled to think it's ok to say those things to a pregnant, emotional, already not feeling her best woman? I tell you it's mind boggling to me.
I am someone who has STRUGGLED with my weight since I was a wee one. Yes I'm tall (almost 6') but for real that doesn't mean that I don't have "fat days". All I heard in high school if I complained about my weight was Ohhh well you're tall. Like what does that have to do with the fact that at 15 I was a size 14??? It doesn't. I was fat, I needed to lose weight and people just saying "ohhh well you're tall" doesn't make me feel any better. In fact my insecurities are only further compounded by the fact that all the tall attractive people of the world are models who weight like 130 lbs at my height, what an awesome comparison.
Anyways, being pregnant has only further added to my insecurities of being overweight. I was already 25 lbs heaver than I was on my wedding day when I got pregnant. The truth is that 15 of those were gained while in nursing school. I wasn't making good eating decisions and didn't have the time to work out. So adding an additional 30ish pounds has been hard on me.
To make matters worse I swear more and more people are coming up to me telling me I'm huge. FOR REAL?????? Because I'm carrying a baby its ok for you to point out my flaws? I'm already an emotional mess and your just adding insult to injury!! I know I'm not thin and you pointing that out is rude, disrespectful and completely uncalled for.
I wish I was witty and could come up with some rude ass comment back, but instead I just either have to grin and bear it or try to jokingly say...wow that was rude.
So lets go back to the age old adage of...IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!
Just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean you can call me fat, chunky, or huge. I don't say those things to you so don't say them to me. If you think those things, FINE but keep them to yourself! I really don't appreciate your rudeness!
Perhaps I'm being too sensitive but thats who I am and I just had to get this off my chest.
So lets put the FILTER back on and stop being rude to all pregnant women out there!
I think you look awesome for being 34 weeks preggo!!! I wish I had your legs!
ReplyDeleteIf someone says your huge, just reply with "well, I'm pregnant. What's your excuse?"
Ha! Perhaps thats a little mean, but I guarantee people will stop and think.
I think you look great too! People can be so rude and insensitive! It is crazy that people feel they can say that kind of stuff to anyone, especially a hormonal pregnant woman who is more sensitive than most! PEOPLE!
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